Hey everybody, Charlie Hauck, Founder, Partner—I don't know, whatever I am at Growth Dynamics. It changes day to day, and it's because I have good people working with me.
So, look, this one's going to be kind of quick and short, and I'll give you one example of the concept that I'm thinking of. But I do want to stress to everybody that words matter, particularly in business conversations.
I think every syllable that's uttered has a purpose. To me, under the pressure of "Are we having a business conversation?", our subconscious mind starts to release thoughts, ideas, impressions, and perspectives that we may not be aware are having a big impact on us. And if it's happening to you, I also think it's happening to the other person you're speaking to.
One of the things I like about my life is that a lot of my friends happen to be in the coaching and personal performance business.
A good friend of mine up in Vermont does coaching work with people, and I've met some of his clients because we've all become friends. I was lucky enough to be privy to a conversation where the client was speaking to the coach and said, "Hey, Peter, I want to let you know this little tip that you gave me has had a big impact."
It was about word choices.
The client said, "I had a situation where I had to interact with someone, and I wasn't expecting it to be very enjoyable. It wasn't going to be a pleasant conversation. It wasn't about something that I really liked to do."
His mindset, before making the decision to change his words, was, "This is going to be a negative or difficult conversation."
So his mindset was simply, I have to have this conversation, which made it sound like it was an assignment, or not his choice, or something he's got to do but really doesn't want to do—something we've all experienced in our lives.
And he said that by making this simple choice of one word, it changed his entire attitude and, in consequence, the entire impact and effectiveness of the meeting.
The word choice changed from I have to have this conversation with this other person to I get to have this conversation with this other person.
As soon as I heard this, it was like a blinding flash of the obvious that that one word could have an enormous impact on how effective that conversation would be.
I have to do it—it's a chore.
I get to do it—it's a joy and a privilege.
And I really think that life is nothing but an endless opportunity to make decisions and choices about how you want to experience what you're involved in and what goes on around you.
I think it was an enormous lesson in less than five seconds that we could all benefit from.
Doing these weekly videos is a lot of work, and there are times that I absolutely feel like I have to do Fast Tip Friday.
But I have to tell you, after I've done them and we've gotten all of these recorded, it really has been an experience where I get to do Fast Tip Fridays and share some thoughts and ideas, and hopefully compel some of you to create success on your own.
So, from my heart to yours, I'm glad I get to do this and share a little bit of my perspective with each and every one of you.
Take care, make good word choices, brighten up your life, and have a great weekend.
Take care.
