Leslie finally got the referral she had wanted: a high-profile client that could be a cornerstone to her entire next year of business.
A professional connection had called her and ask Leslie if she wanted to be introduced to the CEO of Big Stuff, Inc. to talk about her providing some consulting services to his senior leadership team. After a few seconds to digest the message, Leslie accepted the referral and thanked her connection for thinking of her. “Wow, this is the one, “ was Leslie’s immediate reaction. What followed next was quite different. Those demons of doubt and dread crept into her subconscious and started transmitting messages that had Leslie wondering if she had made a mistake in taking on this challenge. Before she knew it, Leslie had almost convinced herself to call the connection back and return the referral.
This situation torments many people in all different kinds of circumstances. Leslie faced hers when a prospect that could truly become a lynchpin in her business was dropped in her lap. After realizing the potential, she began wondering if she had the game to deliver the goods to the level of expectations, she was sure the prospect would have. With most people 70% of self-talk is negative, and it occurs when we find ourselves in unfamiliar territory for the first time. Instead of seizing the moment, the mind hears those voices of doubt. Leslie’s reaction was rather normal, but all she could think of was not how fortunate she was or that the connection felt she was capable of making him look good. No, Leslie was self-inflicting all kinds of pain by focusing on the potential for failure and embarrassment. She was way out of her comfort zone.
The way to control all these emotions is to make a conscious decision to stay in the present and not get caught up in the dread of discomfort. By deciding to take responsibility for her emotions and not allow those feelings to determine her outcome, Leslie could take on this challenge and deliver a program. We all need to remember that the only things we can control are our actions and our emotions, and every day we must exercise conscious choice about both. By deciding she was capable, brave, worthy, and willing to survive any outcome, Leslie gathered her strength, turned off the negative vibes and nailed the program and ended up getting invited back for even more work. She made the decision to believe the voices that believed in her. When it mattered most Leslie could ACT AS IF…!
It's so easy to get caught up in the negative voices in our head or leave unkind comments in social media posts, etc.
How do you make that conscious choice and decision to turn those off? Or what do you use to help you turn those off?
Final Thoughts for the Morning:
"You begin to fly when you let go of self-limiting beliefs and allow your mind and aspirations to rise to greater heights." - Brian Tracy
Your Top 3 Goals & Tactics for the Week
LAST WEEK: Update us on how things went last week with your stated Goals and GD Tactics.
THIS WEEK: Please share your Top 3 Goals for this week, personal or professional, and the GD tactics you plan to deploy.